People are born polysexual.

For context, I’ve been deep in playing, looking for the right gamer in computer for and exploring Sims 4 in general with my 16 year old, whose been playing it around 10 years; it’s fun even to watch other people play on YouTube.

Great news! The Sims 4 game is now set to default every Dim is polysexual, meaning default. If you make your own Sim you decide their sexual orientation if you want to change it. I’ve thought about how the world would be a better place if everyone thought of kids as polysexual, which means they are attracted to humans of all genders. They start life as babies, at least not knowing or giving a shit whether other babies are XY, XX, or of other chromosomes, so why not assume you don’t know if your kid is still attracted to anyone for who they are for at least 3-7 years? And then, at whatever age, they find out if they’re a lesbian, straight, gay, bi, or just not anything for now.

In the future, people will not come out at all; they’ll just find out whom they’re attracted to, all “labels” having no “charge”, neutral, separate from what gender they are. People have made ironic videos of people coming out to their family as straight and getting the bad kinds of reactions some families do to their LGBTQ+ kids. It’s a good way to show how simple and well—happy—things could look like if it was like a Sims 4 game.

In Sims 4, there are also have weird choices for discussions to choose from: “telling a joke” to “coming out.” At any point, like at a party, you’d be talking to someone and the gamer can choose for their Sum to “come out”, “talk about your day”, or “tell a bad joke”, etc. you’re at a gathering and a Sim approached and says, “Hi. I’m a lesbian.”

Imagine that. People would quickly know, for one, not to waste time waiting to see if you just like flirting or are really bisexual.

Recently, I went to a bar with a friend. The theme is weird. It’s called “Boss Tweeds.” Some of their drinks are:• The Reign of Queen Dick: A slightly bitter piña colada • Bury the Votes: An elevated rum sour • Willy Megear: Sweet, spice, sour, and fire

I can’t figure out who Willy Megear is; it’s probably a weird pun.

Afterward, I wondered, “Ok. Was that a straight bar? Where are the bisexual bars?” There are none. You can go to lots of gay or lesbian bars in NYC, but they have no bisexual bars. Ok. Why, if you’re anything, and you go to a lesbian or gay bar, is it assumed you’re trying to pick someone up or are a lesbian? If you have a boyfriend and are bisexual, it’s not fun to go to a lesbian or gay bar. Some people can’t tell their boyfriend, I’m going to a lesbian bar with my friend. “What? Are you trying to get a date/hit on someone?”

Anybody can go to Boss Tweeds. So then I thought, if I can’t go to a bisexual bar with a friend to enjoy a drink of any kind and not be there to pick anyone up, and lesbian bars aren’t the right atmosphere, do they have women’s bars? Say for women who might be straight but have reasons an all-women bar would feel safer, or a female, trans, bisexual or nonbinary person just wants to go to a bar with no men, like the all-girls high school and the all-boys high school model-where there may be gay, asexual, straight, or non-label-oriented boys all in one school but no girls. How about a bar like that?

Probably there’s a customer base out there. Check out how many females have been sexually assaulted by men. I know several who would go back to a bar if no men were there.

“Ladies night”: that’s not for women; it’s to get women to the bar to get cheap drinks so they can get drunk and then get hit on by men.

I challenge you to find some kind of bar in any part of NYC for just “females”, or, even more impossible, a bisexual bar or bisexual women’s bar like a regular bar you could go to for multiple reasons.